In the last recent posts I have shared how we should try to put our super cape down and learn to use the power of pause. I think as mothers we often get overwhelmed with all the tasks related to being mom. Then, if you are working, the tasks at work too add to it all. We get zoned in to a little peace and quiet for a couple of days. Soon we are back to swooshing ourselves through all the tasks and expectations. And although, with all our honest and best intentions, we want to make peace a habit and get more things done quietly, we backslide. Habits take time.
Most of us have heard or read that it takes 21 days to form a habit. But it isn’t all true. It takes about 21 days to honeymoon with a new habit!!!
Business coach, Tom Bartow, considers habit formation to have three phases. I agree with this thought. So, much like relationships, habit forming takes a while. It passes through a couple of phases and the first is that 21 day honeymoon phase. This phase of habit formation is characterized by the feeling of “this is easy.” We are still hyped up by the habit we want to develop. We are eager and excited. But we all know relationships are not all smooth and sweet.
I think this is now pretty much the first 21 days of the new habit. We are pumped by the inspiration everyone gave. We laud in the cheer of our cheerleader friends. And because everyone around you knows you are in that 21 day challenge thing, everyone cheers for you. But, the so-called honeymoon phase eventually ends.
So while it last, we maximize the hype. We monitor our progress. I still like using the 21 day monitoring sheet as it makes me visually see what is happening. For me, that alone is rewarding. I encourage you to use it too. I saw this one in pinterest. It’s not mine, but it’s good. I love it.
Then again, it doesn’t end here. But that is good for today, we start our 21 days. Then move along. We should always set ourselves with BIG goals; but take them one step at a time. In Special Education, we have this “terminal goal” (that’s the BIG goal for the student) and then we enumerate our long “enroute goals” (those are the little steps we take towards the BIG one).