It’s Monday morning, my daughter got up an hour after of waking her. Her homework, left unaccomplished from last night.
(Back story: She was confident over the weekend to say her homeworks are easy-peasy. And the last minutes before bedtime were resolved to acting-out. So I told her to pack up and go to bed. I also told her I will wake her up earlier to complete it the next morning.)
Boom!!! There we were; morning after and she was dilly dallying. Ooops! She did it again. Wasn’t it just last week when we had this same scenario? Yes. It was. But not quite the same. She isn’t mopping her tears this morning. Just moving really slow…
Well, she apparently was confused on how she should word her answers. But she did not ask for any help!!! She wasn’t saying anything; even when I asked her gazillion times.
So….yeah….hand me the hammer and hit me baby one more time!!!
I finally had to offer help. Then she said, yes. I couldn’t help but scold her for this. My few reminders:
- Homeworks come first before play. (Oh! like we haven’t had this talk gazillion times over)
- Easy homeworks are still homeworks that needs to be done. ( Subtly saying; don’t be too confident on what seems easy.)
- If you need help; ask for it. Speak up. Say; “I need help with..” There is nothing wrong with asking for help.
- She will have to decide on how she wants her tasks done. It is hers, not mine.
- We can avoid doing this every now and then.
I have to be honest, it was irritating. But it was something expected. I, of course, did not expect her to learn from last week and never slack. But this morning was a bit too soon…well, she is young. And delaying gratification is not her expertise yet.
I could avoid the circumstances by pushing her to do her homework at once or mandating that she needs to finish it before anything else. Hell, running crazy chasing her and me losing sanity to repeat myself over and over a child who refuses to hear. Yes, that is doable. However, I feel it is more important to exercise her decision-making skills and critically think over consequences; than merely let her follow rules. I believe that along with that decision-making and critical thinking will come appreciation of the purpose of doing things the way she does them. And since, I’m a firm believer that anything that affectively impacts a person makes greater impression on them too; I choose to do mothering her this way.
It may not work for all. It cracks nerves every so often. It wrecks my calm. But in the process, I am also learning to deal with myself. She did it again. It wasn’t a lesson learned too quickly. But SHE IS not a failure. It’s not the end. She’s learning.